Why I’m no longer using the Twin Flame label

Dr. Lisa Xochitl Vallejos
5 min readJun 11, 2019

I am leaving the twin flame label behind. I know that may be shocking to many of you because I have been working with “twin flames” and sharing twin flame information for the last couple of years. But…It doesn’t resonate with me any longer and I am finding that much of what is called “twin flame” teaching right now is dogma that is keeping people stuck in self-defeating patterns.

When I originally came across the twin flame label, I thought it sounded weird and when I started reading some of the stuff that was out there, I definitely didn’t resonate with it at all. I left it alone for quite some time until I came across some writings by a spiritual teacher whom I respect, Jeff Brown. What he was describing sounded more like what I knew to be true of relationships of a spiritual nature and like the recovering academic that I am, I spent months studying transpersonal (spiritual) relationships.

One of the original twin flame teachers, Elizabeth Clare Prophet, said “when people learn that they share a unique mission with their twin flame, they begin to search physically for that one special soul instead of seeking their wholeness within”. That’s the first mistake people make on this journey and one that is perpetuated by well-meaning but misinformed teachers. I believe that the search for wholeness within IS the foundation of sacred soul connections; yet, what is being “taught” in the twin flame world is often the exact opposite of this.

Dr. Jeanne Achterberg said, “Some relationships appear to have an exceptionally strong ability to mold us, shape us, and bring us to our truths and to our own divinity and often to our knees”. These Uncommon Bonds, as she called them, are spiritual alchemical processes where our souls are polished.

However, what is being taught in the spiritual community about twin flames is less about the spiritual nature of these relationships that hold within them the power to transform and is more about misguided beliefs about these relationships. The label twin flame has become so twisted that the soul of twin flame relationships is no longer clearly seen.

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